EMDR Therapy · Trauma · Adults

Not just weathering the storm.Changing the climate.

Therapy for adults who are done surviving and ready to actually shift. No stacked rocks. No empty affirmations. Real work that changes how you move through the world.

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You're high-functioning. You've done all the "right" things. And yet something still feels fundamentally off — like you're managing life, but not actually living it. That's exactly what we work on here.

12+

Years Clinical

LMFT

Licensed · California

EMDR

Certified Therapist

Your Therapist

I'm Alyssa.
I don't do fluff.

I'm an LMFT and EMDR-certified clinician based in Los Angeles. I work with adults navigating trauma — especially the kind that's hard to name because it didn't happen in one dramatic moment, but it still leaves you feeling as if you're in the middle of never ending storm.

My approach is warm, direct, and grounded in the research. Therapy should actually change things — not just give you language for what's wrong, but shift the underlying patterns keeping you stuck.

I'm also a real person who is genuinely invested in your growth. Not in a sparkle-and-affirmations way. In a let's actually do this way.

LMFT · CALIFORNIA

EMDR CERTIFIED

TRAUMA SPECIALIST

EMDR MEMBER

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Does this sound familiar?

You keep doing
the work.
Nothing shifts.

A lot of people arrive here after years of trying — talk therapy, self-help, mindfulness. Progress happened. But there's a layer that just won't move. That's the layer we work at.

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You're not in crisis, but you're not okay either

You function well on the outside. Good at holding it together. But there's a low-level hum of something that won't quit — no matter how much you understand it.

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The people who were supposed to love you hurt you

Relational and developmental trauma doesn't always look dramatic. Sometimes it's the quiet, pervasive kind — the kind that makes you feel like something is fundamentally wrong with you.

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You understand your patterns — intellectually

You've read the books. You've tried the coping skills. But understanding hasn't changed how you feel in your body when it happens again. That's not a willpower problem. That's a nervous system problem. And that's exactly what EMDR is designed to reach.

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Talk therapy helped, but only so far

You've had good therapists. Talked it through. A lot. But there's a part that understanding alone can't touch. That's exactly the part EMDR is designed to reach.

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You're ready for something that actually moves

You're not looking to be soothed or managed. You want to actually change how you show up — in relationships, at work, in your own skin. Done just weathering it.

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What actually getting better looks like.

EMDR doesn't require you to talk through every detail of what happened. It works by helping your brain finish processing what got stuck — so the memory loses its charge. Clients describe it as: things that used to hijack them just… don't anymore. That's the goal. Not coping better with the same pain, but actually moving through it.

How It Works

Simple. Direct.
No guesswork.

Here's what it actually looks like to start working together — no mystery, no pressure.

01

A Real Conversation First

A free consultation — not a sales call. Just a real conversation to see if this is the right fit. You should feel confident before we ever start.

02

Build the Foundation

Before EMDR processing, we build safety and understand your full picture. This includes building real regulation and coping tools — so you have something to work with before we go to the harder places. This takes time, and we don't rush it.

03

Do the Work That Moves

EMDR reprocessing is where things shift. Clients describe it as unlike anything else they've tried — because it reaches the layer where the trauma actually lives.

Ways We Work Together

What I offer.

Every offering is grounded in evidence-based practice, delivered with directness. I don't do cookie-cutter, I do what actually works for your nervous system.

01

Individual EMDR Therapy

Targeted, evidence-based trauma therapy for adults. Beyond talking about it — actually reprocessing the experiences still running the show in your body, your nervous system, your relationships.

Complex Trauma Relational Trauma Divorce Treatment Resistant Depression

02

Therapy for Parents

For parents who are cycle breakers. The ones learning to parent in this generation while trying to reparent themselves. I see you and I got you.

Development Relational Attachment

03

Couples Therapy

For couples caught in the same fight, the same distance, the same loop. Trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy through a 12-hour intensive, I work underneath the argument — to the attachment needs and protective patterns driving it — so you can find your way back to each other.

EFT · 12-Hour Intensive Attachment Connection Conflict Cycles

04

Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy

For clients who have tried traditional therapy and need something more. Ketamine-assisted psychotherapy pairs medicine with deep therapeutic work to accelerate healing in ways that talk therapy alone sometimes can't reach.

Treatment Resistant Depression Trauma Anxiety

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Consultation, Supervision & Speaking

For therapists who want to go deeper in their clinical practice. Case consultation, clinical supervision, and real-world training from a clinician who has done this work — not just studied it.

Clinicians EMDR Training Supervision Speaking

A reflective tool

What's your relationship weather pattern?

Discover how you look for safety, closeness, and reassurance when relationships feel uncertain.

Relationships have weather.

A delayed text. A different tone of voice. Someone getting too close — or not close enough. Suddenly, your logical brain is no longer running the meeting.

You might reach harder for connection, convince yourself you don't need it, move toward someone and then pull away, or trust that the relationship can handle a little weather.

These patterns aren't your personality, and they aren't permanent. They're strategies your system learned for staying connected without getting hurt.

Attachment isn't about whether you're "good" or "bad" at relationships. It's about what your system learned to expect from connection — and what it does when closeness feels unreliable, overwhelming, or both.

This quiz asks about four different situations on purpose: when things are steady, when you're getting close, during conflict, and with someone who blows hot and cold. Most people don't answer the same way in all four, and that difference is the most useful thing you'll get out of this.

Let's find out which forecast your system is usually preparing for.

20 questions About 6 minutes Nothing is stored or sent

Your result

Primary pattern

Secondary strategy

What connection may have taught your system

Where it shows up

In attraction

In closeness

In conflict

In repair

Your pattern by situation

You answered five questions about each of four different relational contexts. Here's what showed up in each. Where two strategies are listed, they scored the same — which usually means your system hasn't settled on one approach in that situation.

What your secondary strategy adds

What you may quietly fear

What you actually need

What keeps the pattern going

None of these make you a bad partner. They're the moves that made sense once, and they tend to produce more of the thing you're trying to avoid.

Small ways to practice more security

Your experiment

For a partner who wants to help

And the boundary on all of this: a partner can be steady, clear, and consistent. A partner cannot be responsible for regulating someone else's nervous system, and a relationship where one person holds that job full-time stops being a relationship. Support is not the same as treatment.

The most important caveat on this page

Attachment patterns are not fixed traits, and this result is not a category you now belong to. The same person can be secure with a consistent partner and markedly anxious with an unavailable one — which is why this quiz asked about four contexts separately rather than treating every reaction as proof of one style.

Patterns also change over time. A stretch of steady connection can move someone toward security; a painful relationship, a loss, or a period of real stress can move them the other way. If your result surprised you, hold it loosely and check it against what you actually know about yourself.

And a specific note worth saying out loud: if your pattern shifts sharply with one particular person, that's information about the relationship as much as it is about you. Sometimes anxious behavior is a reasonable response to genuinely inconsistent treatment.

A note on this quiz

This isn't a diagnosis or a validated attachment measure. It's a reflective tool designed to help you notice patterns and experiment with something different. If a strategy makes you feel more distressed, stop. Your nervous system gets a vote.

Attachment research describes tendencies across populations, not verdicts about individuals — and the categories themselves are best understood as useful shorthand rather than as distinct types. Nothing here replaces working with a therapist.

The other half of the picture

What happens when your internal weather changes?

Your attachment pattern describes how you try to preserve connection. Your nervous-system pattern describes what happens inside you when that connection feels threatened. Together, they tell a much more useful story.

This quiz told you what you do when closeness gets uncertain. The companion quiz covers what your body does underneath it — whether your system mobilizes, races ahead, shuts down, or starts reading the room.

It's twenty questions and about six minutes, same as this one. Most people find that the two results explain each other.

Take the nervous-system quiz

The companion guide

The Relationship Forecast

You just read one pattern. The part that usually explains the most is what happens when two patterns meet — which is not covered by reading about your own.

This is the full guide: all four patterns, what each pairing does to a relationship, why yours changes depending on who you're with, scripts for repair, and how your attachment pattern and your nervous-system pattern work on each other.

All four patterns in full — including the one your partner is probably running
The six pairings, and what each combination does in a relationship
The anxious–avoidant cycle, and how to actually interrupt it
Why your pattern changes by person, and what that's telling you
Repair scripts for each pattern, in plain language
How attachment and nervous-system patterns stack — and what to do with both
When the pattern isn't the problem, and the relationship is

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